…And That’s a WRAP!

People have compared mental health treatment plans to emergency kits, toolboxes, lunchboxes and so on.  These action plans are known as WRAPs (Wellness Recovery Action Plan).  It doesn’t matter what you call it, but it’s important to create your own toolkit of strategies to use to stay well. It takes time to learn which tools work for you and when to use them. However, over time, you will discover the techniques that work best for you, just as a carpenter learns which tools to use for the job at hand. Research has shown that individuals with action plans manage their symptoms better and stay healthy for longer periods of times than those who have no plans in place.

So what do you put in this toolkit? Some common tools include exercise, talk therapy, medication, diet, peer support groups, and relaxation techniques like mindfulness, meditation, and deep breathing,  Others use self-affirmations, mantras, and journaling and practice gratitude.  Basically, anything that you need to do on a daily basis to maintain wellness can become part of your WRAP. Consider what you do when you are feeling well and incorporate those ideas and activities into your plan.

Find Your People

This is another thing that took me years to figure out. Years ago, I joined a moms’ meet up group. Even though I had little in common with the majority of the members (except for the fact that we were, of course, moms), I attended the events and tried to connect with everyone. Needless to say, disappointment ensued as I was excluded from meetups that were “not scheduled.” I remember seeing pictures on Facebook and thinking “how did I miss that meetup?” It turned out I hadn’t missed any meetup; they were all friends and just got together.

I will never forget the day when I was yet again in tears and my husband asked me, “when are you going to realize that they are not your friends?” I was furious at his reply at the time, but it hit me like a punch in the gut: he was right. They weren’t my friends. And what a blessing that turned out to be! They were NOT MY PEOPLE. Celebrate your uniqueness and know that in time you will find your people.