Mental illness is for the STRONG. No one without it can possibly know the courage it takes most days to get out of bed. You know who you are and you are not alone. Life is HARD, but we are STRONG. That's all I have to say right now, but more will come later. One... Continue Reading →
A Mother’s Heartbreak
Last Friday my husband and I drove my thirteen-year-old daughter to the ER after she expressed concern that she would take her life no matter what my husband or I did. Our daughter has been struggling with suicidal ideation for over a year, but when she said she could no longer trust herself to... Continue Reading →
Has a friend or family member told you to “snap out of it” or “get over it”?
I don't know how many times I've heard these responses to my depression. As if it's that easy. Anyone who tells you "You're just having a bad day. You'll feel better in the morning" has clearly not experienced the crippling agony and utter devastation of depression. Thankfully, there are programs in place that help family... Continue Reading →
Using Humor To Cope
One of the hardest things I've ever had to do is resign from my job as a high school English and Theatre Arts teacher. From the time I lined up my stuffed animals on the basement stairs and taught them their ABCs, I had always wanted to be a teacher. After many years of hard... Continue Reading →
Find Your Roots
As I was gathering material for this new blog site, I revisited an old blog I started 5 years ago. I wish I could have told my younger self not to worry so much and that it would all work out for the best. But then again, I needed to experience those lows to be... Continue Reading →
Cognitive Distortions
I describe myself as a "pessimist from birth." Seriously, I can't remember a time when I didn't have worst case scenarios and "all or nothing" thinking. It's as natural to me as breathing. I berated myself if I missed a point on a test. If I got a 99%, I focused on the 1% I... Continue Reading →
The Power of Peer Support Groups
I wasn’t going to go to my weekly DBSA meeting. I was tired, it was dark, and I had a long day. In fact, I've been stuck in a rut for the past two weeks--nothing severe, just low motivation and returning to old poor habits. But something pushed me, I got myself out the door,... Continue Reading →
Skeletons in the Closet
At the last DBSA meeting, a peer shared the following advice given to him by a therapist when he was a young boy struggling with PTSD: We all have skeletons in our closets. When we leave home, those skeletons stay in the closet. You leave them behind. But when you come home, they are still... Continue Reading →
Find Your People
This is another thing that took me years to figure out. Years ago, I joined a moms' meet up group. Even though I had little in common with the majority of the members (except for the fact that we were, of course, moms), I attended the events and tried to connect with everyone. Needless to... Continue Reading →
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