Father’s Day brings up so many difficult feelings. While others are out celebrating their dads or honoring their memory, I have to build up the courage to make a phone call. Growing up, my dad and I had always been close. Despite my parents getting divorced when I was in third grade, I still saw... Continue Reading →
I Get By with a Little Help from…My Support Group
I looked at the faces on my computer screen, the people in my support group with whom I’ve spent every Thursday night on Zoom for the past two years. As the facilitator, I try to stay positive, but one night I was really down. I had just gotten back from a girls’ weekend with two... Continue Reading →
A Mother’s Heartbreak
Last Friday my husband and I drove my thirteen-year-old daughter to the ER after she expressed concern that she would take her life no matter what my husband or I did. Our daughter has been struggling with suicidal ideation for over a year, but when she said she could no longer trust herself to... Continue Reading →
The Riddle of Resilience
When I’m feeling well, I feel very resilient, but when I’m not—when depression sets in as it inevitably does— I feel weak, like I’ve failed to stay well and I should have known better. I think, “How could I let this happen? Why didn’t I practice my coping skills better? How did I miss the... Continue Reading →
“I wish I knew what to say.”
I hear this a lot when I'm in the midst of a depressive episode. It's understandable that someone who doesn't suffer from depression wouldn't know what to say. Thankfully there are plenty of resources and services out there to educate oneself and learn. This article, in particular, provides some helpful advice for caregivers, friends, and... Continue Reading →
Keeping It Real
Sometimes you can do all the right things (e.g., practice gratitude, mindfulness, reframe distortions, use positive self-talk and affirmations, exercise, eat right) and depression can still rear its ugly old head in and leave you in a world of suck. I’ve really been struggling the past few weeks and my biggest fear is: what if... Continue Reading →
Newton’s Law of Motion and Mental Health
I'm no scientist and I don't remember much about Physics, but I know all about inertia. It is easy for me to get stuck in a rut and I have to really push myself to get motivated. Some days are easier than others, but one thing's for sure: lying on my couch doesn't help. Once... Continue Reading →
Has a friend or family member told you to “snap out of it” or “get over it”?
I don't know how many times I've heard these responses to my depression. As if it's that easy. Anyone who tells you "You're just having a bad day. You'll feel better in the morning" has clearly not experienced the crippling agony and utter devastation of depression. Thankfully, there are programs in place that help family... Continue Reading →
Depression Is A Serious Illness That Requires Treatment
"Get over it." This is one of the most frustrating responses I get during a bout of depression. Telling someone to "get over it" is like telling someone with broken legs to run a marathon. It defies common sense as depression affects the brain's ability to think clearly in the first place. Others recommend going... Continue Reading →
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